Hey Space Cadets, how are you today? I’m doing well, forcing myself to stop watching the book rankings so I can resume the work of writing. Hey, book three won’t write itself!! Operation Breakout currently sits at 38k words and I wish to break 40k by the New Year, with a goal of having it to my editor by the end of January. After that we should be on track for Boss Man to do his pre-publication magic in February 2017. Maybe you could gift that special someone a military science fiction novel for Valentines? Okay, maybe a vacuum would be a better choice!! Eww, eww, eww… or a dishwasher!! Anyway, back to work as usual today!
While trying to catch up on reading the blogs I follow, I stumbled across an unread post my editor’s page. I found an interesting article about managing writing as busy parents and decided to get in on the action. First, read Corey’s post and comment and then hop on back here to read and comment! It should make for an interesting discussion, and we would love for you to be a part of it!! And yeah, I got his permission to use his blogging topic. He even promised he’d leave the light on for ya when you mosey on over!!
How do you balance work, home, writing, love, and life?
Right now, I’m a housewife and do my best to keep the home fires burning while my wife goes back to school. Before that, I did the same thing while she worked. Mostly this means keeping the kids at bay while she studies, or cleaning and prepping the meal so we can eat as a family. She is in the Speech Language Pathology degree program, seeking her bachelor’s degree with plans for a masters afterwards. She was motivated to learn, since our youngest has special needs that prompted her to go into a field of work where she could help him as well. To be honest, she was also motivated by what she has had to do to help me with my own injuries as well. Since we stress the importance of school, she does her homework while the boys do theirs at the table. It is very much a partnership, and she covers for me in the evenings for the Friday writing meet-up. She covers for me when I need to Skype the Boss Man, and generally keeps the chaos at bay. We make time for each other once the kids are in bed, and our folks watch the kids so we can have date nights.
How has becoming a parent changed your outlook on writing and reading?
I always told stories in my head, but I started vocalizing them to the kids as they were little. After I’d finished a book, I would tell myself fanfic type stories in the universe with the main characters I loved. Basically, it was my way of not letting a good story end. With kids, I told them crazy stories because I can’t sing to save my life. I sung them Army cadences as lullabies and told them goofy stories to make them giggle. After the writing therapy started, my hope was to leave my sons parts of me, before the TBI turned to dementia or I got struck by lightning.
What’s the biggest misconception you’ve faced with stay-at-home parenting, or parenting in general?
That it was easier than working, for sure! And that somehow being a stay-at-home dad was emasculating. To be honest, my injuries are why I couldn’t work, but I’m not one to sit around watching daytime television so I took to the housewifery.
As a parent, where do you go to write? When is the best time for you to write?
Right now, my office is in the dining room, so I sneak out to coffee shops or a weekly write in at Panera. Mainly I just write while the kids were asleep or at school. Luckily my boys are old enough to be in school full time (8 & 10), so it isn’t as difficult to work around.
Why do you write, and how does that reason impact your writing?
I write to excise my demons from Iraq, to leave a part of myself for my sons and to be whole. It helps me stay calm, which helps me be a better parent. And if we end up making the JK money, I won’t say no or send it back!!
Until next time, stay frosty and don’t forget to keep your powder dry!
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